Are you ready for Superhero change?

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Fast forward to a scenario like this; our superhero is captured by the evil villain bent on world domination who inevitably declares, prepare to be diced, spliced, destroyed or otherwise DIE. Ah, the life of a superhero, rife with conflict both against the villain and within themselves. This conflict fuels a desire for change.

As we contemplate our next step either for ourselves or for others, we often ask if we are ready for change. What does this mean? Any changes that we want to see happen or that we may feel is happening to us are all part of the process in becoming a better person or a stronger superhero. We each have a unique superpower, a unique trait that can be used for good.

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Part of the internal conflict that may be raging is that nagging feeling that you are more than what you are doing right now. Even if you are a cubicle dweller for the moment you can still hone and develop that superpower. Find every opportunity to use your powers. Are you the go to person for specific information, do you rally others in a cause, can you diffuse tense situations, do you come up with awesome ideas? There may be others around you that can spot your talents in action but you can’t be sure. You’ll have to don your cape and tights, figuratively of course, and show the world what you can do. A superhero has to be seen.

A desire to change may have stemmed from some form of conflict but it’s really your decision on how to approach it that matters. Embracing your unique strengths, working on using them, always getting better and learning are ways for you to get ready for change when it comes up. Change is another word for opportunity. When opportunity shows up you’ll be ready.

Stress

We think we want a peaceful and happy life without conflict, however we actually need some level of conflict and stress in our lives. It’s a good stress that stretches us to reach for bigger goals and dreams, to self-actualize and make the world a better place.

Embrace your inner superhero, go out and change the world, and believe in yourself to meet head on any challenges or challengers because, as we all know, the superhero always prevails.

What superpower do you have? Tweet to #Superhero Change

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How to make your dreams come true

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Every now and again we may dream of something wonderful, a travel destination, a new fulfilling job, a meaningful relationship. Oh, how we wish it to come true. Then what happens? We may dismiss this as daydreaming never truly believing it could come true. We may unwittingly feel fear of uncertainty or change and unconsciously decide it’s safer to do nothing. Slowly and surely this cycle of self-doubt and fear starts welling up.

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At first glance we see a large insurmountable gap between our current place in the world and the dreamed about state. Certainly there is a gap since there is always a space between being here and getting there. Between fear and doubt we begin to feel discouraged. This type of thinking, if kept unchecked can result in a life unfulfilled. We end up not going for our dreams but accepting what others decide will happen to us. And without fueling the activities that fire us up and create passion, with self-doubt and insecurities getting the better of us we may find ourselves sad, depressed, even bewildered. But of course we don’t admit this because we tend to rationalize our behaviour and thoughts. We become disconnected with ourselves and stop being a creative human being and become more of an existing and doing automaton.

Let’s turn this cycle around. If you are dreaming you are a creative being. Here are some of my antidotes to help cure these ills:

Fear: We experience fear when we don’t know what will happen or feel we have no control. In actual reality we have absolutely no control of our future, of what will actually happen. What we can control is our thinking and reaction to it and its events. We can only feel some control in situations that are familiar to us. Antidote- Take baby steps in what you fear to familiarize yourself how it feels. Remind yourself that you can only control yourself and your mindset, everything else is just someone’s perception of reality.

Doubt: In any new venture you may feel doubtful of your abilities. Perhaps you are a perfectionist or fear embarrassment. One thing is for certain; no-one starts out being an expert. Babies don’t gracefully run, they waddle then try to walk, and try again, and try again, and try again. Antidote: By the very act of just doing it, regardless of how good you feel about it, will quickly make you better than before. So recognize your doubts are just fear whispering to you and just do, and do it again, and do it again, and do it again.

Elixir (album)Here is a keynote speech I recently watched on How to make your dreams come true.

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How I can help you:

Whether you are looking for a new perspective or tackling a challenge, as a Certified Coach Practitioner coming from decades of consulting as a CPA, I combine my knowledge of business processes, leadership and creativity with my unique creative problem solving framework to help you be creative, grow, transform and succeed. I’d love to chat with you today.

Hiding behind Busy

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It’s a rainy grey morning here in Montreal. Today I don’t have any firm deadlines to meet. My mind wanders to what I could tackle next and inevitably I land on reading through some blogs. The word “busy” percolates to the top of my mind. In one bloggers words as it relates to her dating approach, she says “I guess I have never made myself available in the past, masking the fear of responsibilities and commitment of having a relationship with the word ‘busy'”. I began to think this insight not only applies to ones’ success with dating but really to work and life in general. Think about it. How many times have you asked ‘how are you’ to a friend or colleague only to hear the reply “busy” or “busy busy” as one of my former colleagues used to say. If you catch yourself replying with the word busy, stop! and then add on “but not too busy to talk to you” or my favourite, “but I have all the time in the world”.

What is busy anyway? We all have a million things to do and how we choose what to act on now is a conscious or unconscious choice based on our priorities, or how we feel. Notice how I didn’t say priorities of importance. While it would be nice to do the important things first, generally we end up working on things we feel like until the 11th hour and a firm deadline. If you have never read the 7 habits of highly successful people and First things First by Steven Covey, I recommend them. He shows you how to organize your time into four quadrants; 1) urgent and important, 2)not urgent and important, 3) urgent and not important,  4) not urgent and not important. We spend a lot of time in the 4th quadrant which includes things like too much T.V. or social media and other time-wasting activities. We spend too little time in the first quadrant which includes the planning, preparation and creating our path.

What is your busyness approach? Are you hiding behind that word so that you don’t have to reveal how you feel or today’s challenges. It may not even be toward others but to yourself. You may be feeling overwhelmed and believe you are so so so busy. This busyness attitude may actually feed into your feeling of self-importance as well. Only you can do this task, or do it this well, you may think. We can actually create our own stress based on what we believe we must do and the self-talk we listen to. Don’t let you busy self stress you out. I find it amazing that some people can seemingly do everything with ease and some of us struggle to find time for one thing. Part of it is just perception and your envy coloring the picture. In reality we are all living our lives, full of activity and ups and downs. The secret is you have the power to chose how you want to live, how you want to think and how you want to feel. This power comes from what you tell yourself first then what you tell others. Those with the “busy” mindframe may miss out on some of life’s greatest adventures since they seem to have their minds buried in the busy pit.

Consider the next time you hear someone reply they are busy. Realize that they may well be masking their fears and hiding behind all those bricks called ‘busy’ that eventually creates a wall. Try to poke a hole in it, make a connection. Ask a question or invite them for coffee. Sometimes the busy ones feel a bit trapped and would welcome a helping hand out.