Every now and again we may dream of something wonderful, a travel destination, a new fulfilling job, a meaningful relationship. Oh, how we wish it to come true. Then what happens? We may dismiss this as daydreaming never truly believing it could come true. We may unwittingly feel fear of uncertainty or change and unconsciously decide it’s safer to do nothing. Slowly and surely this cycle of self-doubt and fear starts welling up.
At first glance we see a large insurmountable gap between our current place in the world and the dreamed about state. Certainly there is a gap since there is always a space between being here and getting there. Between fear and doubt we begin to feel discouraged. This type of thinking, if kept unchecked can result in a life unfulfilled. We end up not going for our dreams but accepting what others decide will happen to us. And without fueling the activities that fire us up and create passion, with self-doubt and insecurities getting the better of us we may find ourselves sad, depressed, even bewildered. But of course we don’t admit this because we tend to rationalize our behaviour and thoughts. We become disconnected with ourselves and stop being a creative human being and become more of an existing and doing automaton.
Let’s turn this cycle around. If you are dreaming you are a creative being. Here are some of my antidotes to help cure these ills:
Fear: We experience fear when we don’t know what will happen or feel we have no control. In actual reality we have absolutely no control of our future, of what will actually happen. What we can control is our thinking and reaction to it and its events. We can only feel some control in situations that are familiar to us. Antidote- Take baby steps in what you fear to familiarize yourself how it feels. Remind yourself that you can only control yourself and your mindset, everything else is just someone’s perception of reality.
Doubt: In any new venture you may feel doubtful of your abilities. Perhaps you are a perfectionist or fear embarrassment. One thing is for certain; no-one starts out being an expert. Babies don’t gracefully run, they waddle then try to walk, and try again, and try again, and try again. Antidote: By the very act of just doing it, regardless of how good you feel about it, will quickly make you better than before. So recognize your doubts are just fear whispering to you and just do, and do it again, and do it again, and do it again.
How I can help you:
Whether you are looking for a new perspective or tackling a challenge, as a Certified Coach Practitioner coming from decades of consulting as a CPA, I combine my knowledge of business processes, leadership and creativity with my unique creative problem solving framework to help you be creative, grow, transform and succeed. I’d love to chat with you today.
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